Well first of all, I am going to start off by telling you that if all you are looking for is some fine bitches to have wild sex with, this article is not for you. Really, I think the only people who can get bitches and ho's to do whenever they please are the rappers that talk about it, but even then I am not so sure that they are telling the truth all the time. So, basically I am telling you to get realistic. You aren't going to find people out there like that unless they are really slutty. And if they are really slutty, you wouldn't really want them anyway. Moving on...
Now, if you are a female and wondering why I don't say anything about how to pick up guys on the Internet, well the reason is that it is really easy to pick up a guy on the Internet so anyone that actually needs any instruction on that must be really pathetic and doesn't really deserve to have a guy in the first place.
In this day and age, the Internet at times seems to have been reduced to nothing more than a global singles bar. I've been playing on the Internet for more than six years now, and in the 'old days' people did actually chat. They met, they had fun. It wasn't illegal for guys to chat with other guys. Today it's practically impossible to go into a chat room and find people actually chatting. People come in, find a suitable partner of the opposite sex and promptly begin sending private messages to each other, leaving the main chat room essentially empty. You'll stroll into a room with 30 people in it and nobody will say anything!
Here is typical scene in today's chat room:
Welcome BryBry! You are in room: #teenromance You see here: @joeblow john jane23 SeXyGRRL Type_R_BoY 12oger AlYcE HunnyBee FyNeChiCa BigBoY JaMeZ Crystal LA_GyRl <BryBry> Hello everybody, how are you all doing?
(silence)
<BryBry> So where are you all from?
(more silence)
ThaBizzomB enters #teenromance <ThaBizzomB> Wazzup people! <ThaBizzomB> Age/Sex check!!
(suddenly as if a great awakening has just occurred)
<LA_GyRl> 16/F <12oger> 26/M <Type_R_BoY> 17/M <FyNeChiCa> 14/F <BigBoY> 19/M <JaMeZ> 21/M <Crystal> 19/F <ThaBizzomB> Anybody wanna talk to a sexy 13/M? <FyneChiCa> Sure!
(Frustrated by more silence, you leave. Meanwhile, you ponder... just how sexy can a 13 year old boy be?)
And it seems that all these people want to do is meet somebody on the computer and have a relationship. But most never progress past the e-mail stage and very few ever actually meet the other person and start a real life relationship.
And that, really is the key to finding romance on the Internet - meet her as soon as you can. Of course, getting her to meet you in the first place can be a very tricky feat... but not if you take the time to look at what everyone else is doing wrong!
There are many factors working against you. Maybe even more than trying to meet someone in person. A lot of the hurdles you have to overcome are the result of what other people are doing so it kinda sucks because you don't really have any control over it.
Or at least, 80% of the people on the Internet of any age are acting like horny teenage boys.
Sad as it may be, the "old days" that I remember are gone. Though in the past the Internet population was mostly male, it wasn't the intent of most of the people to satisfy their sexual/romantic desires. However, this is a fact that we must all come to terms with.
This fact is the single largest factor working against you in trying to find a suitable person with which to begin a meaningful and fulfilling relationship. But it is also the one thing that you can use to help you more than any other thing can.
Because of what T.V. and magazines are saying about the Internet being full of freaks, you are constantly having to convince everyone that you are not a freak. You have to convince them that you are not some 50 year old man trying to molest little boys or that you are not some Internet porn fiend.
Yet these same T.V. shows and magazines are reporting that the Internet is becoming more and more accessible to the average citizen and that millions of households are getting on-line.
So I contend that the Internet is populated mostly with regular people. A few of them are the child molesting sickos, but the overwhelming majority are just regular old American citizens.
But if they are all regular people, why do they act so strange? Well that's the next thing here...
What I mean by the mask of anonymity is the fact that when you are talking to someone, there is no way to know for sure that they are who they say they are. Even if they give you a picture, how do you know that is actually their picture? When they say that they are 5'7" and 120 lbs, how do you know that they aren't really 5'3" and 280 lbs? How do you know that they are even of the sex that you think they are?
I believe that everybody acts differently on the computer than they do in person. Now don't get mad at me and tell me about how you are exactly the same in person as you are on-line. I'm not saying that everybody is consciously making an effort to deceive you. I think it is just a natural, psychological reaction to the notion of being able to do whatever you want without any real consequences because no one really knows who you are in the first place.
It's just when you are meeting someone in person for the first time and you are making your first impression on them. They don't know you. So as far as they are concerned, you are whoever you make yourself out to be. Everyone acts at least a little different when they are making a first impression.
But the effect is even more pronounced on the Internet than it is in person because in person there are still many things that you do subconsciously that the other person can see. Your body language... your demeanor. These things affect what people think of you, not just what you say.
On the computer, you have total control over what people think of you because the other person never knows anything about you that you don't tell them. And everyone takes advantage of this, even if it is only on a subconscious level.
The mask of anonymity also gives people a strange boldness... which is the reason why the horny teenagers are so open about their horniness!
The fact that there are so many horny-acting people on the Internet means one very important thing - Internet chicks are sick of horny boys! A lot of people think that acting this way is going to get them somewhere. It's going to make them stand out or something. But since everyone is doing it, the best way to stand out is not doing it!
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If you are meeting a chick in person for the first time, you don't just come straight out and ask them if they want to have sex with you... that would never work! And it doesn't work in real life so why would it work on the computer? Yet that is what millions of horny teenage boys are trying to do.
And you don't stroll into a room at a party and say "Hey everybody, I'm a sexy guy". Why? Cuz it would probably make people think you are a total 'tard. The people that do respond positively to such a pickup are probably of not very high quality and you would not want to go out with them anyway. You have to remember that there are real people on the other end and if something wouldn't work in real life, it probably would work on the computer either!.
She's always being mobbed by a bunch of fake horny teenagers the moment she logs on... let her feel that you are a real person, that you have real feelings and that you are a real person, not some fake-ass guy that is just looking to jerk off in front of his computer!
The bottom line is BE DIFFERENT!! The very fact that every other guy is acting like such a horny dog means that all you have to do to stand out from the crowd, to seem like a sensitive, caring human being, is JUST ACT NORMAL! All the other retards out there are making it easy for you!
The longer you wait before you do this, the higher the chances are that you will will just become some Internet fantasy that will never materialize in real life. The more time you spend on the computer with each other, the more comfortable the two of you will be with the security of that anonymity, and the more difficult it will be for the both of you to get out of that security and actually bring yourselves to meet each other in person.
There is a "point of no return" which is all to easy to cross -- take too long before you meet them in person, and you may never meet them in person.
This also means that you should be looking for people who live near you. If you live in Green Bay, Wisconsin, don't waste your time talking to some Internet hoochie from Miami. You're never going to meet her, so don't waste your time, and certainly don't let yourself get any more comfortable having these Internet relationships and more uncomfortable with meeting people in person! I know some people that are practically incapable of meeting new people in person because they have gotten far too comfortable with socializing on the computer!
Or at least, not until you have already arranged to meet her in person (so you'll be able to identify her) or she has asked you first.
Now, this may take a lot of patience and a lot of self-control, but it is absolutely necessary! The reason is that the moment you ask her about what she looks like is the moment that she will declassify you to the status of the rest of the mediocre horny dogs on the Internet, and it is the moment where your chances for meeting her are all but lost.
Furthermore, the girl will notice that you didn't ask her about what she looks like (because she got so used to people asking her) that she will automatically assume that you are not as shallow, insensitive and sex-starved as the rest of the guys out there. You will score huge bonus points, based on just that alone! This is another example of taking advantage of the other people's mistakes.
By now you may be asking "But Bryan, what if they are totally nasty!?!?" Well that leads me up to the next point:
Believe me, if you follow this advice, your whole quality of life will be better.
There really isn't much risk involved here in meeting someone in person for the first time if you haven't already had a long, drawn out cyber-relationship. If you haven't known them that long in the first place, it won't be so bad if after you meet them, you never hear from them again. On the other hand, if you have spent the last 2 months writing three times a day to each other, you will have a much harder time getting away from it.
Since everyone acts different in person than on the computer, you might find that you get along very well with someone you didn't really click with on the computer. Or you might find that you have absolutely nothing in common with this other person. You never know what to expect, and that is the risk involved, but if you never take that risk, you might never find the person that is right for you!
Be polite, and try to have fun. Don't make her feel like she is on trial or anything. And even if she is butt-ugly, or you guys don't click at all, just try to have as much fun as you can for at least those few hours you are with her, I am sure you are mature enough to do that. Recognize that you aren't going to be interested in this person in that way, but still have fun, because as you know, it is possible. If you go into it with the attitude that all you are going to do is try to have fun, and if something happens, it happens, then you don't have anything to worry about going in and meeting this person, even if you don't know what they look like.
Now, I am no licensed professional, but I can tell you that if you follow my advice, chances are you will have much more success, or at least, much less disappointment. You will find that it is superior to initially meeting in person in the sense that when you do meet her in person, you don't have to go through all that small talk B.S. because you already did that on the computer. Yet, you won't find it to be too awkward because you haven't built up your entire relationship on the computer yet.
And above all, just use some common sense! Don't be afraid to take risks, and try to make the most out of what you have... it will not only help you make the experience of meeting on the computer more enjoyable, it applies to all of life itself!
Copyright © 1998, Bryan Hong